Sometimes I feel like I’ve fallen into a rut and I definitely feel this way now in my life. I cannot put the feeling into words but it honestly feels like a lack of motivation and care. I’m currently trying to pick myself up and continue on the path to happiness and success. So, I would like to share the ways I do this for those of whom have fallen into a rut themselves.
1. Identify the problem
It is almost impossible to solve an issue without knowing what that issue is. I suggest trying to dig deep and figure out what the problem is that has you in a rut. For me, at the moment my rut has a lot to do with the most recent winter break I had. I personally felt that I needed more time to recoup from my busy schedule last semester. Also, I’ve been feeling a little down lately because I’m usually so sure of what the future holds and I now feel oppositely. I’m so close to graduating college I am a little afraid of what is to come afterwards. Adulting just seems so scary.
2. Understanding/ Acceptance
There has to be a certain level of understanding that comes with these problems. You may not understand exactly why these issues came to be, but maybe you can try to understand what about it is bothering you. You also need to understand and accept that some things cannot be changed or controlled. For example, f your problems have to do with the actions of others– you have to understand that you cannot control how people act or react.
3. Cut Them Off
Cut off all negativity in your life. This is definitely harder to do and easier to say but it is important. Surrounding yourself with negativity will only have an equal effect on your life. There is a saying I like to live by that states, “You are who you surround yourself with.” We should only surround ourselves with people who will have a positive impact on our lives. People who make it harder for us to live the life we want for ourselves don’t deserve to be involved in your life. It is easier to say because sometimes this involves people you care about (family, best friends, significant others etc) but for your own sake distancing yourself or cutting them out of your life may benefit you.
4. Practice More Self-Care
A lot of people get caught up in the drama or lives of others and try very hard to help that person. But they forget to put their own needs first. I, personally, am guilty of this. It is hard to see a friend struggle with things going on in their life or a family member go through drama and do nothing. It’s okay to help them sometimes but you have to make sure that helping them doesn’t come at an expense of your own happiness and mental, emotional or physical health. I’ve been caught up in doing things for other people to the point where I’m stressed about another person’s problems as if they were my own. It made me unhappy and I even got so caught up in helping this person that I put off going to the doctor when I was sick. I learned the hard way that this is not okay.
5. Be More Positive
Not only should we practice positivity of the mind but also body positivity and situation positivity. Everything isn’t always as bad as it seems and the feelings you have won’t last forever. The struggle you feel will pass just like many other struggles you have survived. You will survive this, just be positive.
6. Don’t Aim For Failure
I love the quote that says “Aim for failure and you will always succeed.” If you focus on everything that is going wrong then it will feel like your whole world is falling to pieces. So stop focusing on the failures in your life but instead learn from them and grow from them. Life may not always be full of huge successes but the little victories do matter.
7. Anxiety Shouldn’t Dictate Your Life
Anxiety has a tendency to always make things seem worse than they truly are. We’ve all been there, when we’ve allowed our anxiety take control and we overthink every little situation. The smallest of problems can seem like huge problems. Yes, it is definitely easier said than done but if there is a will there is a way. What works for me is when an anxiety infected idea comes into my brain I try to solve the thought in a rational way. Here is a link to Psychology Today’s Advice: 6 Tips To Stop Overthinking
8. Eat Healthy, Exercise and Keep Tidy
Eating healthy is proven to reduce stress and exercise is scientifically shown to release endorphins which is a chemical that makes you feel happy. Also, messiness can impact your mood and stress level. Messiness is said to make a person feel depressed and stressed out. So to get your life back on track it’s important to have all of the bases covered to make sure you feel better.
9. Make a routine
Routines are very important and can even help your sleep schedule as well as improve your mental health. Nothing feels worse when you can’t manage all of your daily activities. I mean how is someone supposed to juggle school and work on top of a skincare routine, going to the gym 4 times a week, eating all the necessary healthy meals, a hair care routine? It seems almost impossible when you list just a few things out but a routine would definitely make it easier to manage.
10. Don’t Worry Be Happy
Love your life and live your life the way you want to. Do things that make you happy.
If you are severely depressed, contemplating suicide and/or suicidal please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline:1-800-273-8255.